7 September 2008, 8:23 pm
I am a 41 year old married women, my husband and I have one child together who is 8 years old and is a "Severe Brittle Diabetic", he was diagnosed at age 6. A few months prior to our son being diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes I discovered that my husband and our mutual friend had been loveres since the time of our marriage, which is about 6 years. This lady was also his underling at work, they are painters and also are Mexican Nationals. I am American. This lady was my friend and helped me around the house and also did a lot of childcare for us in our home. I did favors for her and her family such as I leased a nice house for her and her adult son to live in three houses down from our family home because they had been living in a trailer with cockroaches. When I took our son to Disneyworld at age 6 I invited this lady to go with us, and she did. My husband stayed home but "sent" her with me and our little boy on vacation. Of course I did not know she was his lover, If I had known that I would have driven her straight to the Mexican Border and threw her back to her "third world country", she was here illegally as is my husband. When I discovered the truth about my husband and his Adultery I was devastated. The lady he had been with left the country that very day and I never had the chance to speak to her regarding her relationship with my husband, that of course was for the best as I wanted to kill her for the first month and probably would have physically attacked her If I had located her. I have struggled with horrible depression and tormenting thoughts ever since finding out, I oftentimes feel like my life is over with and that I'm ruined. About the time I found out our financial situation began a "nose dive" into the proverbial "toilet" and now we are broke. Our cars were taken away, we lost our home. The constuction jobs in Myrtle Beach came to a screeching halt and although my husband works very hard and is dilligent we don't even have our $550 dollar rent money for September. I have not worked since our son was diagnosed because it's been a full-time job keeping him alive and he had a very dangerous time at school becuase he did not have the right kind of help in managing Diabetes and Diabetes related emergencys. Now though the school district has provided him with a full-time Nurse at school and at least when I drop him off he has protection. I'm extremely hateful at times to my husband because he disgusts me and I have no respect for him at all, although I have tried to give it into the hands of GOD and allow GOD to heal me it seems that my husband has not truly changed in the aspect that he will still tell a "lie" now and then and then justify himself as all liars do. So in addition to all these things I've gained 150 pounds, so now I'm middle aged and fat and broke. I have a dream to move to Woodville, Texas where my elderly Mother and sister live however they are not in a position to take us in and my Mother said that we could not bring my son's dog and cat. Also I am concerned that I'm being selfish to take my son away from his Dad, I fear that it will break his heart and hurt him beyond my ability to repair. But I don't know what to do I am so desperate to leave this city and state, I want to go live near the few relatives that we have and I'm not sure If I'm just being a "dreamer" or not. I have no car, no job, no money, my little boy and I would probably have to try and live in a "long term" Womens shelter in the Woodville area and just build a life from nothing. This again would mean that my son would lose his dog and cat who he loves like siblings. I know that my Mother and sister would put us up in their small house but they live 8 miles from the school and without a car I would not be able to take my son to school and pick him up. Not only that but Woodville is a very small town and the jobs are few in number so it will probably be a real "crap-shoot" to get a decent job. I worked as a Pay-day loan manager/Check Casher and have office experience, I'm also bi-lingual and speak spanish. I fear that the years will just go by and nothing will change here with my husband and I'll wake up an overweight 50 year old with no life. We have no family here in South Carolina and my grown daughter and grandson live in Los Angeles so I feel that Texas is much closer than South Carolina for at least once a year visits. The thing is that I don't know If I have a right to take our son to Texas and leave my husband behind. He told me that he was going to kill me and then kill himself. When my husband told me that he was going to kill me and then himself I was raging at him over another of his lies and I told him that I would kill him If he "betrayed" me again in any way. So now what? Am I a "domestic abuser"....or is he? It seems to me that Adultery for our entire marriage, financial fraud against me and telling me I am "crazy" for years is some kind of abuse, perhaps mental a... read more
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